It’s so ironic that I’m writing this blog-post,because I’m that one person who has the most ridiculous fears.I’m not talking about fears of lizards,that’s normal.
I’m talking-fears of circles,fears of sleepovers,and fears of butterflies.Yup.
But I have had a ton of actual,real fears that I have worked on.And I got rid of most of them.The thing about fears is, everyone,deep down,knows exactly how to get rid of them.They just don’t know it.
You’re probably thinking,”Nika,What are you talking about?If I knew how to get rid of my fears,I would have already been rid of them”.
No.Hear me out.
The only way to get rid of your fears is to face them.
Are you trying to tell me that you didn’t know this?Of course you did.
Why then,does our mind convince us that we’re confused and don’t know how to handle it?I don’t know.I’m not a professional.But I think that it’s because we’re scared.
Okay,now let’s get down to the real info.How you do “face” your fears?
You already know the answer.Just go and do that thing.
But I’m not here to only tell you to “go for it”.I’m going to tell you HOW to “go for it”.
Some easy ways to face your fears that have worked for me are:
1.Talk to your fear.
Like,in your mind.You don’t want to be called crazy when you’re not lol
Talk to your fear as if it’s a different person.
For example,I was crap scared of getting out of the house(a whole another story). When I decided to talk to my anxious self,this is how it went.
Imagine me ready to get out of the house.
Anxiety:You can’t get out of the house.
Anxiety:You’ll never know when something bad happens.Be safe.
Me:Are you sure of that?
Me :And what if something good happens?
See?It makes things easier.Because now you know that your fear isn’t YOU.
2.Create an “Ideal identity”, or an ‘Alter ego”.
I figured out my alter ego, or my ideal identity not that long ago.I’m still trying to figure it out.It doesn’t have to be a whole different person.
Like,when Lilly Singh(if you don’t know her,you’re majorly missing out in life) was depressed,she created “Superwoman”, someone she wanted to be.She kept calling herself that.”Superwoman is stronger and smarter than Lilly Singh”,she kept telling herself.She started living like superwoman.She started calling herself by that name on the internet.
Eventually,she became superwoman.
Now everyone knows her as superwoman more than her real name.
Once I figure out mine,I’m sure I’ll write a blog-post on it.
3.Talk to someone who has already destroyed the same fear that you have.
Reassurance.That’s what it does.
When you actually finally get rid of your fear,you’ll realize how tiny and easy it was.
It’s all in the head.
What’s your biggest fear?
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